April, 2014

Maybe this will be an over-share, but the last week is part of the roller-coaster of what will eventually be your existence.

In April 2014, your mother Rebekah and I had been married a year (April 6).  Two weeks after our anniversary, we traveled to Brisbane for a band contest, before heading north to visit Grandma and Pop (my parents), the McCabes, and our friends in CSB and Salvos, and to march on ANZAC Day.  We were young, and still very much in love (and I hope this is still evident later on in life).

So we did what young people in love do.

What we weren't totally aware of at the time, was that your Mum had partaken in a glass of wine or two with Aunt Linda (who we know isn't your aunt, but we suspect will probably be a major person in your life).  As you'll learn in life, alcohol and certain types of contraceptive don't mix...

A week to the day later was my first prod of something potentially wrong, with your mother getting a little sick.  She was fine, of course...  but the running joke became for a while that she was pregnant.

And we started to believe it.  We started to want it.

We had always wanted kids, from before we were married, but we had opted to be responsible and get our lives set up as best we could before deliberately starting our family.  Had it happened earlier, it would have been a lot tougher of an upbringing.

But we found ourselves getting excited, and seeing every little biological clue as a sign Mum was with child.  I don't know who wanted it to be more - both Mum and I were pretty thrilled.  I wanted to scream it from the rooftops - but it had only been one week!!!!!

But in the end, it turned out it was not meant to be.  The disadvantage of such a high is the low that follows, and the low that followed was rough.  But it forced your mother and I to sit down, and put plans in place.

We knew your mother might be getting a transfer soon.  We knew her prescription for her pill (THE pill... do they still have this?) was going to run out soon.  So we used this information to plan.

Come Bek's 25th birthday (June), we would cease using the contraceptive, and actively start trying for children.  This gave us time to cope if we had to move, and get established in a new town, or position; but Singleton was a beautiful place, and the people so caring and nice.

April, 2014 - the date the thought of you became assured, in one way or another.